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December 09, 2005 |
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Just Close This Chapter
FOUND by Michael & Amanda
in Hayward, California
Found in the parking lot of the BART station in Hayward.
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We collect FOUND stuff: love letters, birthday cards, kids' homework,
to-do lists, ticket stubs, poetry on napkins, telephone bills, doodles -
anything that gives a glimpse into someone
else's life. Anything goes...
I adore how blunt she is. I wish all relationships could be so black and white.
This is so sad. I can't imagine how much this must have hurt for Hector to read.
Yeah it was pretty plain and simple and it gives the hint that she didnt have to much feelings so I guess its for the best but karma will catch up I soppose.
After much deliberation Hector finally realised what he wanted in life......and it wasn't her.
I think she is hurting alot and that is why she is so blunt. She feels unimportant to him and therefore wants to make it seem like she doesn't care but she still loves him :( She says maybe we should close this capter because she wants him to dissagree and fight for her!
She spelled "love" L-U-V. She's yankin' him.
i think she just needed a quick way out of the relationship and this note was the best chance she got. in some cases, leaving a relationship is just a matter of grace, tact, and timing... just like leaving a party. i don't think she expects to see hector again ever, or to answer the phone when he calls.
I think she doesn't care that much about him as she claims to or she wouldn't have written a fukn note. that's lame. (how bitter did I just sound right now? lolllll)
This is exactly how I feel right now. However, I truely do love him. I just feel that he doesn't care enough about me and that I should end it before I get hurt worse. I cant let go.
I agree with Amber. I am in the same situation, and I am very much in love. But sometimes it's best to go with the lesser evil. I mean, I don't think she's blunt because she doesn't care.
This is exactly what I want to say to my boyfriend right now.And it because I love him that I have to be selfless and do it.It is easier to be blunt because that way, there is no risk of him misunderstanding and you causing more hurt.
Been there. There's no graceful way to break up really. Maybe this was just the easiest for her.
This is essentially what I said to my boyfriend a few days ago. It hurts but what has to happen, has to happen. I could've married him, but alas..
can't you just wait around to see what happens? sometimes you won't be the priority to the other person because they have problems of their own but i'm sure if you have paitence and wait things'll change...
Sometimes you are never the priority of the other person. You never will be, can never hope to be. I'm happy for her, that she was brave enough to send the note.
If you're going to break up with someone, at least have the respect to tell them face-to-face rather than with a badly written, nearly illegible note. And yes, I agree that she's probably bullshitting the guy and trying to find an excuse away from him.
i thought the letter was to hector from brian. but either way, he/she is a tease.
Just had this same conversation with guy. I'm crazy wild about him - but I never felt I was that important to him. Agree with others that she's blunt because she has finally faced the truth of what she is in his life. She's getting her respect back.
Pretty much describes how I feel about my last relationship.
Gah! Who actually does know what they (realistically) want in life? Poor Hector, I completely sympathise, but it's for the best that you've moved onto a different chapter - this one was clearly too demanding.
The break-up-by-note. "Luv you lots?" Ouch.
Was that then followed up with "K.I.T.!" and "Chemistry with Mr. Pardee was a bitch!"?
This girl loves Hector, but Hector doesn't seem to feel as strongly for her. Out of hurt, she responds by writing him this scaithing note, hoping that by acting non-chalant about the whole relationship, it will make Hector feel like he's losing her. In turn, he will show her more affection in order to hang on to her.
If her plan fails, however, the next note he gets from her will be spewing phrases such as, "I love you more than I've ever loved anyone" and "I don't want to break up with you, please don't leave me! I'll do anything!"
I said this to someone once. Dr. Phyllis is right, I was hoping that it wasn't the case, that he'd fight for the relationship.
He didn't.
It was the best thing I ever said. Because we broke up, I moved to a shed in the middle of nowhere and cried for weeks and then a year later I met my soon-to-be husband.
In the new life, there are no late night angsty conversations about commitment.
This girl might have written that note for one reason, but I hope it all worked out for the best.
Wow, I am moved by all of the insightful comments posted. It's so hard to know if you should move on when you care for someone deeply but also have doubts.
Well at least she didn't do the "it just wasn't meant to be" schtick, though that's more of a guy's breakup phrase.
Been here, done this. You can't live your life waiting for someone who is standing next to you to notice you're there and breathing.
Sure you can, Orinoco. You can marry, have children and a mortgage and the whole enchilada, and every day you curse your desperation and lonliness and cowardice to have not written a note like this.
I feel the exact same way right now.
we'll see what happens today..
I feel just like this right now. The guy I'm seeing just lives day-to-day and no idea what to do with his life. That makes for really good spontaneous times together, but I just don't see much of a future together, and I'm not his priority: his aging mother is.
I love him and always will, but I've been hanging on for almost 4 years now for him to make some decisions. It's long enough.
Wow, this note really opened up a can of worms, didn't it?
Hey, Unworthy, is it that bad?
Ouch. I'm really sorry.
Hugs..x
Seems to me like she's projecting her own feelings (and desires to get out of a doomed relationship) so that she can feel that "it's not me, it's you." thing, and not have to experience guilt.
Or maybe she really is just sick and tired of Hector playing video games at his buddies' houses when he could be spending quality cuddle time with her..
Either way, wise to get out while the getting's good.
Trouble in paradise, if I were dating you and knew how you truely felt about my "aging mother" I would have kicked your ass to the curb LONG TIME AGO. How selfish.
Dr. Phyllis has hit the nail on the head. Like a lot of you, I went through this, very recently. Saying those words to the person I loved was excruciating. We lived together for 2 years and the whole 9 yards. But judging by his reaction (or lack of) in that he didn't put up a fight and just left... well, I'm the one left hurt out of this deal, even though For The Record I broke up with him. It will eventually be the best thing I did for myself. I'm having trouble seeing that side of the situation right at the moment. If Hector was much like my guy, I bet the offenses were a little more hurtful and disrespectful then playing video games with his friends rather than hanging with her. That would've been an improvement, in my case.
it's okay, she was a bitch anyway.
This is kind of like that "Sex and the City" episode where Carrie's boyfriend broke up with her on a post-it note.
The phrases "I think I'm not important to you" and "luv ya lots" don't really belong in the same note. It seems to me that the relationship was getting too serious for her and she was looking for a way out.
But then again, I broke up with someone via email, so I probably shouldn't talk...
I ended a relationship about 6 months ago with someone I was engaged to and this is EXACTLY how I felt! It helps me to feel validated in my decision knowing that other people have also felt that frustration and pain that such an empty relationship carries with it.
Not being a priority to the person you love the most in the world hurts more than almost anything...
where was he while she was thinkin the whole night?