June 13, 2008

Thanks for Sleeping with Me
FOUND by Eric Starmer in Oregon
I buy used books from thrift stores and yard sales, and then sell them on Amazon. I picked up a copy of "Arctic Dreams" by Barry Lopez, and found this inside. It was in an envelope which appeared to be unopened (glued closed).
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I really like this note, and the person who wrote it. Too often when we see these notes they're filled with complaints. Nice to see one of thanks and praise.

As for "loving me just the way I am and encouraging me to be what I'm not yet" I guess that's possible, but a pretty fine line. Seems contradictory at first glance. Not knowing this couple, I'll withhold judgment on that one. ;)

P.S. I got the hardest spam protection question I've ever seen on this one. 28 times 15 is what? Seriously, how many people can do that in their heads? I guess I would say it's 280 + half as much again, but still!
+ June 13, 2008 12:07 AM +
Rebel in a fishbowl
I really like it as well... I'm thinking it could have been an open assignment of some kind though. I took a class once for married people and the women were encouraged to write a note using the word "respect" instead of "love" and thank their husbands for going to work and supporting them and/or the children (even if he wasn't the sole breadwinner). I tried it and my husband values that note more than any of the hundreds of love notes I've hidden for him throughout our marriage!
+ June 13, 2008 12:11 AM +
the man behind the curtain in oz
how does a genuine person 'weasel' their way into one's heart? I always think of weasel-ing as being cunning and not exactly genuine?

pedantic. It is a nice note, and I'm sorry the intended doesn't seem to have received it. Hope Beck wrote another one just like it.
+ June 13, 2008 01:39 AM +
Katheirne
Is this in sparkly gel pen?

Also, this note comes at me 1,000 BPM.
+ June 13, 2008 02:10 AM +
The Person in Your Dreams
I think this is the sweetest note. 'Beck' writes with such fondness, and it's nice to see.

BUT

"thanks for sleeping with me...I don't think I've ever said that"

I find the ending rather abrupt. Why would you write that? Kinda ruins the flow of the note.
Apart from that...V.Cute.
+ June 13, 2008 02:18 AM +
The Person in Your Dreams
I think this is the sweetest note. 'Beck' writes with such fondness, and it's nice to see.

BUT

"thanks for sleeping with me...I don't think I've ever said that"

I find the ending rather abrupt. Why would you write that? Kinda ruins the flow of the note.
Apart from that...V.Cute.
+ June 13, 2008 02:19 AM +
Farmer in In The Dell
Oh yeah, he's got her buffaloed alright.... Probably just gives her a deep, soulful look, gets the best nookie ever.

For a lot of guys, it's just not that hard to pull off.
+ June 13, 2008 02:58 AM +
Lauren in Muncie
Beck, as in the singer, Beck Hansen? I highly doubt it.
+ June 13, 2008 03:58 AM +
mona lisa in the louvre
just FYI, L. 28x15 =420. not a random number.

i hope B got this note, from Beck. Maybe it had been opened, but just, being in the book, maybe damp, resealed itself.

i hope.
+ June 13, 2008 04:09 AM +
baby basil in the herb garden
I too hope the recipient actually read this note, if not, it's just too sad. Sad (pathetic) enough that she actually *said* "thanks for sleeping with me" (I mean, how desperate do you have to sound, girl?) but it would be even worse that he cared little enough to just stick it in a book, unopened, and then give away the book.

Did he ever even see her again, or call? Somehow, I bet not. Too much open gratitude too early in the sexual part of a relationship can really get rid of a guy. They may be grateful for the nookie, but they'll take it as their due.

I guess the old proverb is true: guys want sex, girls want relationships.

I just can't get over the desperation of actually sending someone a thank-you note for sex. Who wants to bet she was a virgin?
+ June 13, 2008 04:24 AM +
but wait
maybe "thanks for sleeping with me" isnt what we all at fist assume.

maybe she was alone or something happened to her that made her really just need someone to comfort her, and he really just SLEPT with her/next to her/by her
+ June 13, 2008 05:12 AM +
Holly the Homemaker in Toronto

@BUT WAIT- I thought that , too, at first, but, now I'm thinking they were best buddies?
**SHRUG**
Nevertheless, it's so rare to find such a complimentative letter these days.
Mind you, this sentence: "Thanks for loving me just the way I am and encouraging me to be what I'm not yet..." erks me the wrong way. Like, what IS she not YET? A Doctor, Dentist, Teacher, a Burger Flipper???? I think this sentence would of been better if the word **YET** wasn't there.
However, still a very, truthful, to the point, letter. Hope 'B' did receive it, and read it. Probably wishing he would of kept it by now!!
+ June 13, 2008 05:29 AM +
Librarian in the woodwork
I'd suggest to Beck that she doesn't order the "Lumberjack Breakfast" any more when they go out in the morning. That way, she'll be able to finish it herself and B won't have to save bacon for her.

Secondly, how many times has Beck had a chance to thank someone for sleeping with her before? Is she the woman that Jay had visions of yesterday?

And, finally, why is everyone assuming that "B" is a guy?
+ June 13, 2008 05:29 AM +
Holly the Homemaker in Toronto

@ LIBRARIAN- You're right...I assumed 'B' was a guy.

My apologies!!

Could be another 'Becky', for all we know!
+ June 13, 2008 05:52 AM +
Clover in the Lawn in Oregon too
I like this note a lot! I should be a giver of this note. I can think of at least three people very close to me whose partner relationships warrant a note like this, on the receiving or giving end. Maybe it's an Oregon thing.

The best parts are in the middle:

..because while the rest of the world talks about what they can do for people, you are already silently doing it..thanks for loving me just the way I am and for encouraging me to be what I'm not yet..
+ June 13, 2008 06:23 AM +
Katie in Macon
Glad I couldn't see this find because there was an American Apparel ad right in the middle of my screen, with no X to get rid of it. Thanks, Found!
+ June 13, 2008 06:27 AM +
Are you ready to rock in Cleveland
Is anyone else bothered by the word "weasled"?
+ June 13, 2008 06:31 AM +
Jonathan too in in in my office again
Sad if it stayed in the envelope unread. Perhaps she couldn't bring herself to hand it over after all, or the right moment never came, or something terrible happened before she was going to.

Not necsaarily a couple thing -- could be BFFs. 'Sleeping with me' could be just that -- deep supportive peace and comfort.

btw, 28 x 15 is 7 x 4 x 15, or think of it as 2 x 15 which is 30, x 2 again which is 60; 7 6s are 42 (secret of life, the universe and everything!) x 10 is 420. Easy peasy, har har.
+ June 13, 2008 06:34 AM +
Clover in the Lawn
Holly, I think "yet" is very important, because no one is what we could yet be. It makes a HUGE difference when your partner encourages your dreams and cheers you on. Without that I probably wouldn't have studied art or learned another language. It helps to have someone say "you can do it" and it doesn't hurt to have someone say "we can afford it."

Who we really are and who we are yet to be, are actually the same thing. The latter is potential not yet manifest.
+ June 13, 2008 06:49 AM +
Clover in the Lawn on the last day of school!
Btw, you guys's* bacon and weasel comments are cracking me up!

*(In case you're not from Oregon, that's pronounced "gyzez")

+ June 13, 2008 06:55 AM +
The Captain in Tenille
"You are the most real person I think I've ever met."

this is my favorite "huh??" line in the note. I THINK I've met you- I think I've met Elvis, Ghandi, Ben Stiller, and Peter Tork.. but of all of the people I think I've met, B, You're the most real.

Thanks for giving me my first real orgazm.
+ June 13, 2008 06:57 AM +
darcy in my chair, rockin' out
i absolutely LOVE this note. so much. just the wording of it and how just plain nice it is really appeals to me. five thumbs up.
+ June 13, 2008 07:03 AM +
Clover in a fit of self-criticism
"No one is what we could yet be" is an awkward sentence.

None of us is what we could yet be.

No one is yet what he or she could be.

We aren't what we might be later.

Ack!!
+ June 13, 2008 07:18 AM +
mona lisa in canadia
Clove, we say guy's's too. (love double apostrophes)

We ain't lived up to our potential. (does that work better, clover?)
+ June 13, 2008 07:25 AM +
JodaBabes in General
Nothing says "Thanks for sleeping with me" like a green glitter gel pen. Imagine how this would have read had it been written with a black ball point Bic?

I like her ellipsis'...
+ June 13, 2008 07:28 AM +
Pepper in your nose
One should always thank their said partner for sleeping with them. It's an unspoken rule and also just good manners.
+ June 13, 2008 07:32 AM +
Dr. Sarna Sunshine in the clinic
Always thank your lovers. It's the right thing to do.
+ June 13, 2008 07:35 AM +
brain problem situation in my head
Bacon weazel. You dirty bacon weazel. Thanks, Mr. Bacon Weazel. Thanks a lot. . .
+ June 13, 2008 07:36 AM +
Lauren in summer school
he's about the most real bacon weasle I ever saw!


What a beautiful letter. I have been in many situations (being 17 years old and love sick) where I have wanted to write notes like these. Not necessarily for sleeping with someone but just that kind of desperation of wanting someone know how they impact you.

Men don't keep me moving forward in my life though.
+ June 13, 2008 08:05 AM +
alone in the dark
He/she wrote this to themselves...
+ June 13, 2008 08:18 AM +
ames in chicago
Maybe B is short for Beth. And Beck had a really hard day, and Beth held her all night. They fell asleep together, and when Beck woke up, Beth was still there, offering support.

I hope "B" read the note; it's really quite sweet.
+ June 13, 2008 08:36 AM +
Megs in Bama
Yeah- I think this was definitely written by a female to another female; maybe on a friendship level, maybe on the way to being more than friends--either way, its a nice note.
+ June 13, 2008 08:54 AM +
Jason in FOUND HQ
Hey people, we're aware of that American Apparel ad that's mucking things up. Should be fixed soon!

Love,
Jason
+ June 13, 2008 08:55 AM +
Just another ingrate in the room
Jason! Shame on you! How dare you let this go on for so long?! Have you no respect for your paying customers? I might not renew my subscription to this website if I don't see a drastic improvement in the placement of the American Apparel ads.
+ June 13, 2008 09:03 AM +
Green Fairy in San Francisco
"Guys's" is an Oregon thing? I grew up there and use that word all the time! I know it's not common usage, but I didn't know it was a specifically Oregon thing. Learn something new every day!
+ June 13, 2008 09:09 AM +
Bizzy Woman in the city today
I loved this until the "thank you for sleeping with me" - THAT RUINED it for me.

It sounds desperate, pathetic and needy.

It was a kind note up to that point, so even if HE was being genuine with his affections and help, he won't be now because of her 'thank you' for sleeping with me. GEEEZE! Some sisters can be soooo stupid. Talk about 'giving someone a hammer to hit you with later!'

What's next? "Thank you for cheating on me - It really showed me how I feel about you and how much I want US to work out. . . "

*shutters in disbelief*

(Maybe that stupid line is the very reason it wasn't opened - maybe she thought twice and didn't give it to him....God I hope so.)
+ June 13, 2008 09:10 AM +
mona lisa not wear in g american apparel
I wasn't sayin nothing about Found. i was upset at AA. I hope Jason knows that. I wonder if they (AA) are aware of their badness. I don't think they are. I wonder if they read this site? i dont think they do.
+ June 13, 2008 09:11 AM +
Merf in Missouri
If she did give it to B, they cant be all that wonderful otherwise they would never have abandoned this note like they did.

Just my opinion.
+ June 13, 2008 09:17 AM +
Makin tea in her underwear
I think the thanks was cute. I mean, who ever says thank you anymore, especially for that? I think we should say it more often....
+ June 13, 2008 09:58 AM +
Found @ Work in Phila
Love this note! It makes me sad that the person this note was written for may have never seen it!

Thanks for sleeping with me. . .
haha! LOVEEE IT!
+ June 13, 2008 10:04 AM +
Indy
@ are you ready to rock: I kinda like the line "you have very quickly weasled your way to my heart." It's funny. Like Beck tried to resist B's love, but she couldnt because he/she weasled his/her way in there, no matter what. I can relate, because I once told someone "that they grew on me like fungus." Not very romantic, but now we joke about it.
+ June 13, 2008 10:13 AM +
Shutters in disbelief
@busy woman: haha! disbelief shutters, just what I need when I can't face reality! I can simply close myself off from the world as I shudder behind my shutters. . .
+ June 13, 2008 10:24 AM +
Jonathan too in my office (sshhh!) but about to go home for tea
@Makin tea,

Thanks for that. Thanks for sleeping with me, and thanks for the tea.

And thanks for saving my bacon, the cleaning lady was going to throw it away.

And thanks for closing the shutters.

Thanks for everything.

And hey, you look really cute in your apparel.

I don't think I've ever said that before...

Come back! Where'd she go?

What in the heck am I supposed to say...
+ June 13, 2008 10:39 AM +
Julse in my room eating Amber's (famous) koolaid pie
@Alone...I think your're right. "B" is Beck appreciating herself. Maybe she snores, or talks in her sleep, and wants to thank herself for putting up with herself all these years.
+ June 13, 2008 10:53 AM +
Kaitlyn in at my house
I really like this note. I think weasel and bacon kind of lighten the mood. The whole thanks for sleeping with me thing I am going to believe is totally not sexual. Maybe they were having a sleepover or on a trip and no one would share a bed with Beck except B. Or Beck's dog died or Beck and B fell asleep studying. Thats what I am going with.
+ June 13, 2008 11:17 AM +
Liza in andromeda
oh come on, you bitter old naysayers! maybe she's just comfortable enough with him to be a little crass. maybe she wrote the letter and put it in the book for safekeeping/as a temporary bookmark and forgot it was there. regardless of gender, regardless of what happened to them, it's pleasant to see someone express their gratitude and affection for someone so honestly.
+ June 13, 2008 11:32 AM +
Christina in Illinois
I like Beck. She seems like a cool chick. She didn't get all gushy and dependant girl on B. She stated her feelings in a self-assured way that didn't request anything in return from him. Her handwriting is cool and I love the glitter pen. I just hope B actually had a chance to read the note and the re-glued envelope was a result of moisture or age.
+ June 13, 2008 11:36 AM +
Terrie-Is-So-Very in totally-unique-ville
I might have thought this was a note to self, but who weasels into their own heart and who thanks themselves for sleeping with themselves? Other than that, I see nothing wrong with thanking people for being awesome. The world needs more of that.

And who's an ingrate? Making fun of AA is one of the best parts of FOUND comments. Besides, I seriously meant it when I said I was getting some of those thigh high socks they have, they're so hot they almost make up for what they're doing to those poor dogs on that website. I am speaking, of course, about the pet section and not girls in bathing suits. Woof.
+ June 13, 2008 11:39 AM +
Lil Nik in Des Moines
i think its a little sad it was found in a sealed envelope. Just to think that the person it was intended for never got to read these thoughts
+ June 13, 2008 12:37 PM +
You knew it was me in embarrassment
re: Just another ingrate in the room's comment:
Were we supposed to be subscribed to foundmagazine.com?? I'm so embarrassed! I've been reading here for free. That's why I've never complained about the ads.
+ June 13, 2008 02:04 PM +
Sarah in Santa Rosa
I think that Beck is short for Becky and that B is short for Brian, Brandon or somesuch.

As for whether the inted recipient read it, I think they probably did. It could have been given to them in an unsealed envelope and, over time, moisture caused the glue to activate. I've had that happen in just a few weeks time, depending on where the envelope was left.

I wonder if they're still together...
+ June 13, 2008 02:13 PM +
as helpless as a kitten in a treeeeeee
YES, "ovcoarse" you're supposed to subscribe for the privelege of reading and posting here! It's $15 a year, per registered name, payable to ME, cash only, no refunds, no warranties, expressed or implied... (only kidding, of course.) The SDMB went subscription some years ago, and supposedly is going back to FREE membership (with annoying ads, of course) within a month or two. So... cool. Yeah.

If it weren't for the ads on this site I wouldn't even have known about that new M. Night Shamalamadingdong movie, which I plan on seeing tonight... hadn't heard a thing about it until the ad forced itself upon my awareness the other day. (Yes, I live under a rock.)

I can live with the ads. But then again, I haven't had one that didn't go away as soon as I moved the mouse off of it.

Also, when every possible comment has been made about a day's Find, what would we chatter about, if not the American Apparel ads? Hmmm?

And did you see that??? JASON LOVES US!!! (woo hoo! we heart you, too, Found peeps!)

Oh.. Shoot. Was I supposed to comment on the Find??
+ June 13, 2008 03:26 PM +
One last thing that has nothing whatsoever to do with the F in D.
Guys's is something that people say all over the place- but "youse guyse" is something I've only heard in Chicago, NYC, and Butte. (Byooot!)
+ June 13, 2008 03:31 PM +
mona lisa in the louvre
youse guyse is said up here in the great white north, too. the more north you go, the more you hear it.
+ June 13, 2008 03:54 PM +
Night in gale, singing Moody Blues
"Nights in white satin,
Never reaching the end,
Letters I've written,
Never meaning to send."

-Justin Hayward
+ June 13, 2008 05:36 PM +
Merf in the louvre
and the more south you go the more you hear y'all... wonder what happens when you reach the middle... hmmmm
+ June 13, 2008 05:40 PM +
meatloaf hangin in fl
thank me for sleeping with me
+ June 13, 2008 07:17 PM +
princess in denial
' Weaseling out of things is the only thing that separates us from the animals , boy. Well all the animals except the weasels'
- Homer Simpson
+ June 14, 2008 03:20 AM +
Cathryn as in not "Cathy"
Clover - the correct phrasing is "Youse guys." ...well, at least it is here in New York.
Librarian - I thought the same thing, that B is not necessarily a man.
+ June 14, 2008 06:38 AM +
Holly the Homemaker in Toronto

@ CLOVER- Now that I heard the sentence a few different ways, and, what MONA said, Not living up to your potential, I too, will say that it's a fine line!
Thanks!
+ June 14, 2008 10:19 AM +
Night in gale
@The Capt: Peter Tork? Hahahaha!
+ June 14, 2008 01:23 PM +
poached egg
meatloaf, thank you for sleeping with you.
+ June 14, 2008 04:47 PM +
amberlyn in costa mesa
i really really like this one its so cute^.^
+ June 16, 2008 12:19 PM +
Dudley
Maybe it's the 400th time the Beckster has slept with B. It finally occurred to him that a nod of thanks might be in order....
+ June 16, 2008 02:18 PM +
Secretary in The Office
Aww, I really liked this note. I loved the weasel comment. I have a person that I am going to write a note like this one too now. He came into my life during a time when I wasn't looking for anyone or anything and changed me forever with his steady presence and faith in me. =] It means a lot to have someone who not only accepts who you are now, but also looks forward to seeing the potential in you take form. And my person also did just "sleep with me once" I was having a hard night and he talked with me on the phone and read to me until we both fell asleep. I think I should thank him for sleeping with me now. =]

This is my new favorite find.
+ June 16, 2008 05:33 PM +
LuxuryDiva in Chicago
This was a sweet letter until she got to the "thanks for sleeping with me"part! It makes me wonder what she looks like, probably a real troll.
+ June 18, 2008 06:32 PM +
bamemma in earlham college
wow, what a sweet note. you know, i can even feel the "thanks for sleeping with me" part, even though it seems shallow. imagine what a self-esteem boost it must have been for Beck to sleep with "the most real person" in his life.
+ June 25, 2008 02:29 PM +
Mickey B in bed, just keepin' it real
Beck writes me notes like this all the time. :)
+ July 01, 2008 01:40 AM +
brampton lady in brampton ontario canada
Must have been pretty homely to be thanking the guy for sleeping with her.
+ January 28, 2009 01:03 PM +
Dave in Belfast
It's so sad that whoever this was for didn't read it. :(

I hope the envelope was steamed open and closed again for some reason.

-D
+ April 29, 2009 08:13 AM +

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